My strengths in a relationship

 


Strengths

It takes a lot from me just to think about my strength in general and now to zero in on relationships. Back to the different segment of relationships that I seemed to have formed for myself in my previous post, I play a different role in each of them. I would assume, my strengths are also reflected differently in each segment:

  • Unattached and Random: I would quite easily adjust to the type of social circle and fit in. Agility in adjusting to what's required and I will use the right amount of energy in that setting to engage with the other person or persons. It's a lot easier because it's random and I do not have much attachment, it's like discover feed on Instagram where I could just browse through and engage or disengage. I do tend to make people feel that I'm giving them the attention at the same time engage in a conversation with them. 
  • Met at different points of my life: This would change slightly from the previous segment. I would have a closer identified role but I still keep them at arms length and keep them there. I do not actively initiate but I would be there when I am required or when they make the connections.
  • Grounded with some commitment: The role here requires a some commitment. I would either be a counsellor, mentor or a more rational person type of role for them. Which allows them to feel they are able to confide in me as that's what I bring forth in the relationship. I do a bit of initiative here where I do reach out sometimes just to ensure they have my attention but not frequent.
  • Grew up with and familiar: As this is a lot more commitment, I do need to ensure my existence is felt or at least that's what I want to ensure they know. Most times, I seem like a confident person who seems to know what she is doing in life and becomes a place where I can be that annoying but caring sister, forever a child and yet a smart mediator daughter. 
In general, I would say that the strength I bring to these relationships are just me being me where I am really good at listening but within the different segments, I would then tune in or out like a discovery feed on social media. Sounds very superficial relationship to have with me. Hence, I do not have very deep and meaningful committed relationships. I just don't really know how.

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